Lots Of Men Get Excited Watching Their Partner Cheat – Here’s Why

5. Is Cuckolding Safe?

Whether it’s a trusted friend, acquaintance from a kink scene, or person you met on FetLife, you should talk about barriers and safe sex. Often in committed relationships, both partners have been tested, know one another’s status, and do not use condoms. At the risk of sounding like a health teacher, if you can’t ask your bull about their most recent STI screening, they probably aren’t the right bull for you. “The thing about sex is that there’s no such thing as risk-free sex at all. When we make sexual decisions what we’re looking at is what are the risk that we are assuming, and are we able to accept that risk?” Dr. Powell says. “You need to have a good conversation with them about their STI status, the last time they were tested, and what kind of barriers they use generally for sex.” She notes that however you go about barrier use is ultimately up to all the parties involved, but communication, consent, and knowledge of the risks are crucial.

While most STIs simply require a visit to a clinic and a prescription for antibiotics, whenever you bring someone new into your relationship, there are emotional risks that may be even more severe. “The general rule in relationships is that whenever you try something new, there is going to be unexpected emotions,” Dr. Powell says. Before you cuckold, talk with your partner, and your bull, about what you all want out of the experience and boundaries. Goddess Aviva advises creating safe words so you can stop the scene at any minute. She also stresses the importance of aftercare, or taking care of one another after the play ends, and discussing what you liked and what could be improved. You may try it and decide it’s not for you. Or, you may open an entire new world of possibilities, far beyond what any troll on Twitter could create by using “cuck” as an insult. “Cuckolding is definitely for the sexually open-minded, but if done with the proper intentions, it can bring a couple closer together,” Goddess Aviva says.

You’ve probably seen the term “cuck” thrown around on the internet. It’s used as an emasculating insult, but there’s an exciting and normal kink behind it – although it’s certainly not for everyone. But what is cuckoldry, and what the hell is a hot wife? Furthermore, if it turns you on how do you responsibly find a “bull?” AskMen spoke to a sex-positive psychologist and two dominatrixes to bring you a guide to hot wife and cuckoldry.

1. What Are “Cuckoldry” and “Hotwife”?

“Cuckolding is a sexual interest, or fetish, in which usually a partner (usually a woman) has sex with another man,” says sex-positive psychotherapist Dr. Liz Powell. “It also can involve aspects of humiliation and embarrassment including talking about how small the husband’s genitalia is.” The cuckold is the partner who watches their wife, or partner (while many married couples do enjoy dating apps voor politieke volwassenen it, you don’t have to be married, or straight, to enjoy cuckolding) have sex with the bull. The bull, or the other man, may be more sexually dominant. The bull is often the “guest star,” or someone outside of the primary relationship. What’s in it for the bull? Well, fucking the hot wife, of course, and the satisfaction of watching the quivering husband in the corner

The partner who has sex with the bull is often referred to as the “hot wife.” While the two terms can be used to describe the same scenario, hotwifing can be different from cuckolding. “It all depends on the specific dynamic that they’ve worked out. Hotwifing as opposed to cuckolding puts the focus on the wife. Cuckolding tends to have more of an air of degradation and humiliation,” Dr. Powell says. Sometimes a couple who enjoys hotwifing wants the focus to be on how desirable (hot) the wife is. “Hotwifing is about celebrating your wife’s attractiveness, and sharing her with others,” Dr. Powell says. “There’s also a locus of control difference. A lot of times cuckolding the locus of control is placed in the woman who is having sex with other people, where with hotwifing a lot of times the locus of control is placed in the male spouse.”