Something which I never ever recognized regarding the coveted “nerdy girl(friend)”.

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Tsukuyomi

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Hey all, this has been a long time since I’ve really started a topic on here. Ideally it does not devolve into arguments or anger or anything. In a manner this might be a post of curiosity, and in another way it is an apology.

My pals have long since decided it’s time for my situation getting matchmaking again, although i am fine with this

are a nerd we felt like it might oftimes be for optimum to acquire a person who at the least shares a few of the issues i like source hyperlink for the reason that section. I do not wanted overall nerd, but at the least some would-be nice. I already bring peculiar looks for taking pleasure in everything I delight in from others around me personally. Really don’t desire one of those visitors to end up being the individual We worry about/spend considerable time with. But we play the role of flexible since I have understand the nerdy female is purportedly an unusual product. I never pointed out this in their eyes, but my friends obviously decided this as well for reasons uknown, up to the point where one flat out said: “guy, talking as one of all of us whom partnered a ‘normal’ lady, I WANT you to get rid of with a nerdy lady!”

That kind of surprised myself and made me personally feel bad for the man’s girlfriend, that’s very nice (all of them are. They are in addition all immensely diligent after countless all of us go someplace just like the comic shop and they opt to tag along and I also try making it a place to thank them for enduring all of our shenanigans if they’re demonstrably quite damn annoyed.) It’s not which they do not like eachother, as I understand they actually do, but i do believe he comprehends the way I experience how part of their lifestyle he really enjoys can not really be shared with their partner.

Today, all of this said, practical question of ratio always comes up. Dudes to girls, you are sure that the drill. It always appears like anyone some other person understands satisfied one, or a buddy of a friend knows one or views them all the amount of time. But not one folks KNOW people or has satisfied anyone who matches the balance.

(take note that I’ve see what I’ve created over and it sounds like i am objectifying the folks under consideration awfully. Perhaps not my personal purpose and I apologize. Not-being misogynistic or hateful, merely trying to get the purpose across.)

Lately but I went into a new colleague who I found myself tasked with tuition and as the woman and I have to speaking about points we manage outside operate I admitted that i’m a geek and whatnot and her feedback is: “oh! I used to be a nerd as well, but I found myself bullied truly poor so I kinda ended are one.”

Now, I understand that. No problem along with it. I recall getting bullied at school being alone for a number of the time due to it. But it provided me with some delicacies for planning when I regarded as just what she stated much more. Perhaps I generated multiple assumptions, but I do not feel like they can be also far-fetched. Eventually this time stumbled on me:

Girls/women whom are/were into nerdy affairs. well, circumstances will need to have or perform draw worse for them than they actually do for nerdy men.

I’m guessing a nerdy lady in school will have difficulties obtaining along with other women because she actually is nerdy, at IDEAL she will get uncertainty from the men if you are phony, at WORST they become scary. The greatest circumstances circumstance are an inferior circle of family. At the worst (and possibly more inclined based on where and/or when you experience their own education) this may bring designed virtually no friends whatsoever.

that have to just. suck. Flat-out end up being terrible and awful. and worst part would be that right here i will be selecting someone who experience that. What type of a horrible individual am we to wish that on someone else just therefore I has someone to pull out to a movie and food immediately after which get back and enjoy Portal 2 with? It can make myself feel just like a jerk. I did not need most company going right through class, but damn.

Anyhow. was we totally off-base with this specific? It’s just a thought I’d considering everything I remember from my own age in school and exactly how, to some degree, culture still operates. Does this nonetheless occur to women exactly who see ‘nerdy’ points? Could it be since terrible as I’m considering it most likely had been? Girls i know which show my passions need so far arranged that certainly, it absolutely was bad, and indeed, i am kinda on-point as to what i am convinced. Exactly what about everyone else? Any ideas? Stories? Are I best or incorrect is experience like a jerk for attempting to go out someone that shares my personal passions?